Challenged Hope

Grandmother raising Grandchildren with FASD in Hamilton Ontario Canada


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FAS: Starting a New School

FAS: Starting a New School

Tips to Remember for FAS: Starting a New School

FAS: Starting a New School

All children react when starting a new school, whether they have Fetal Alcohol Syndrome or not, but kids with FAS can overreact to the situation. The following tips for starting a new school stem from my own experiences with FAS grandchildren.

  • Before school begins, drive by the school while out shopping, etc., using a positive tone to remind the child it will be their new school.
    • Tour the school with your child before the start date.
  • Take your child to meet the teacher. Then ask the child to draw/paint a picture of their new school and teacher. Post it on fridge and admire it in front of the child when family or friends visit.
  • Take photos of the school and interior as a reminder for the child of what to expect and post them on fridge. Apply colorful, funny stickers to the photos.
  • Do a count down a week before on the calendar. Use fun stickers. Encourage your child to cross off the days.
  • If you work, take a photo of yourself smiling at your job then remind the child that is where you will be, and you will be thinking of them the entire day.
  • Acknowledge separation anxiety and its consequences.
  • Explain there will be something special waiting for them on their return: favorite food, dollar-store items.
  • Let the child ask as many questions as needed. Smile whenever you mention school. It’s important to keep the mood upbeat.
  • Prepare the child the night before by preparing the lunch, laying out clothes, and stuffing backpack, avoiding a rushed atmosphere the following morning.
  • If friends will be attending the new school, remind your child of who they are.
  • Reassure the child as much as possible, but don’t give in to pressure.
  • Have an emergency contact at the ready in case the child is dismissed early due to behavior.
  • Expect problems so you won’t be disappointed.

FAS: Starting a New School

The best people to ask for advice around starting a new school, are children with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, and one of those children is my youngest granddaughter with FAS who is now a teen.  Following, are her strategies for teachers educating students with FAS. She insists all the strategies worked for her, plus, she thinks my blog is cool and helpful to others, and wants to get involved.

“Thank you, darling, and congratulations on this defining moment as you take your first step toward advocating for children with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. I love you and look forward to many more of your posts”

My youngest teenage granddaughter with FAS, suggests the following strategies for teachers. She told me, I just typed:

  • It helps if the child knows the teacher well before starting the school. Have more than one meetup with the teacher before the day arrives so the child remembers who the teacher is. (Grandma thinks this a great idea. Perhaps several meet ups over the month of August could be arranged with the teacher)
  • Supply fidget toys for the child, i.e. stress balls, floam, mini stuffies, available from any dollar store by either teacher or parent. Teacher must not get agitated if the child uses the fidget toys a little too noisily during a class.
  • Absolutely NO YELLING on the teacher’s part. It makes things worse and the loud noise upsets the child.
  • The teacher should give advance warning before ending one subject and beginning another.
  • If the child is becoming overwhelmed, distract the child with another activity.
  • If the child finds it difficult to write down instructions, have them take a photo (cell phone) of the instructions instead, i.e. from the chalk/white board and read the instructions from there.
  • To raise the child’s confidence promote them to helper of a chore you know they can do.
  • Supply free time on electronics, board games etc., as a reward for positive attitude.
  • Supply stuffies for recess/sick time.
  • If a fight with another student ensues, ask for an explanation then instruct the child to walk with a friend while listening to music to allow for calm down time.
That is interesting! Each one of the strategies has helped my granddaughter achieve success at school. But I hasten to add she has an amazing teacher, which helps no end when parents are advocating for their children’s education. As this is her first contribution to this website, please leave a comment of support as she steps out of her comfort zone to help others!

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Event: Eden Mills Writers’ Festival

Don’t Miss This Event: Eden Mills Writers’ Festival  — Sunday September 13th 2015!

I will be attending this event: Eden Mills Writers’ Festival, as publisher of my memoir: Two Decades Of Diapers, along with two friends and fellow authors, Viga Boland and Heather Lamb.

Come and meet us three, Barbara Studham, Viga Boland, and Heather Lamb at the event: Eden Mills Writers’ Festival on Sunday, September 13th from noon to 6:00pm. We love to talk about our books, so don’t be shy. We didn’t write our books to rot in cartons in our basements—we WANT to share our life experiences. My memoir describes the twenty years I spent raising four grandchildren with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. Viga wants the world to know that incest is rampant and shares her own mind-blowing experience with incest at the hands of her father. Heather spent thirty-five years working as a bookkeeper in a Hamilton, Ontario, car dealership and writes humorously on the antics and escapades of her colleagues and the staff.

To learn more about the Eden Mills Writers’ Festival, visit: http://www.edenmillswritersfestival.ca

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Heather Lamb’s new book, titled: This *#%$ing Car is a Lemon, will be available in 2016!

 


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FASD Marathon

Get Your Running Shoes On

Running An FASD Marathon!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I once heard it said that raising children with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder is like running an FASD marathon. At the time, I wasn’t quite sure what the individual meant but, as my grandchildren with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome progress through their teenage years, I now know exactly what it means:

  • RUN one step ahead of them. Know their moods. Recognize the onset of a meltdown.
  • EXPECT setbacks, but FORGE AHEAD.
  • Know this takes STAMINA and FOCUS and diminishes ENERGY.
  • PLAN A STRATEGY to prevent losing to their defiance.
  • Stay ON TRACK.
  • STAY HEALTHY so you can cope with the behaviors waiting to TRIP YOU UP.
  • Don’t FALL, never FAIL, NEVER GIVE UP.
  • KEEP YOUR EYE ON THE FINISH LINE; only when night falls can you say you WON.

You see, it is a marathon. So get on those sneakers and start running! I’m sure many caregivers of teens with FASD can come up with more tips on winning the FASD marathon. So, let’s hear them. Please leave a comment.

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There’s a New Group in town!

Over the past few years, first cities, now countries are becoming more tolerant of LGBTQ individuals. It is wonderful to see how accepting communities can be when they open their minds to groups or individuals who are considered minorities, undesirables, or less vital to the community.

But there is another group in town who, for many years, has been overlooked in the acceptance department. They are the FASD’s who, like LGBTQ’s, struggle to maintain an identity.

Why? Because persons with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder are considered less valuable than those who don’t struggle with mental illness and are therefore disposable. Yet, despite their struggles, with proper supports, such individuals are equally capable of contributing to society in positive ways. And not only to society, but to people involved in their lives.

For example, having been sole caregiver to one daughter, and four grandchildren with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome over a span of three decades, I am not the person I was before parenting. Due to a difficult childhood, I was withdrawn, had few goals for my life, and cared little for others. Now, I advocate for individuals with FASD through speaking engagements and my memoir: Two Decades Of Diapers. I search for resources for my grandchildren to get them the best support they deserve; I blog on FASD (www.challengedhope.com) and have a website on FASD (www.twodecadesofdiapers.com), all in the hope of raising awareness about FASD. Awareness leads to eventual acceptance, so those who struggle with the disorder will no longer need to hang their heads in shame. Tolerance of FASD is long overdue. Let’s start opening our minds to mental health disorders today.

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Event: Group for FASD Youth & Siblings

A very successful group for youths 10-20 years of age with FASD, and their siblings, has opened up in Hamilton, Ontario.

Founders, Mark Courtepatte and Savanna Pietrantonio had this to say—

“To the best of our knowledge, we believe that this is the first Youth & Sibling Support Group in Ontario … and possibly Canada, or the world!  There are a lot of groups that have the youth and siblings join with the parents and caregivers (as we do with our parent and caregiver support group), however we believe this is the first group solely focused on supporting youth with FASD and their non-FASD siblings.  It is just for them!”

Some of the goals set for the group:

  1. Providing an environment that will allow youths with FASD to feel comfortable, normal, and accepted. They will be with peers and other youth who share a strong commonality.
  2. Allow youth with FASD to make friends with peers more likely be more open and understanding.
  3. Help youth to learn and better understand FASD together.
  4. Have fun!

For more information on the FASD Youth and Sibling group in Hamilton, Ontario, please visit www.hamiltonfasdsupport.ca or email: Hamilton.FASD@gmail.com

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My memoir: Two Decades Of Diapers describes my twenty years raising grandchildren with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome.

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Sensory Issues

Every so often, I discover an interesting blogger who has experiences to share. One such person can be found at http://www.21andsensory.wordpress.com. This blogger addresses her Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD), and because my grandchildren with FAS struggle with sensory issues, I found her tips helpful and informative. To encourage her to share her experiences and get the word out about sensory issues, please visit her website and leave a supportive comment. We need more people with sensory issues to blog, as it’s a topic discussed far too infrequently, yet sensory issues can have a profound effect on peoples’ lives.


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Events

Following are updates and news of upcoming events from Hamilton (Ontario) FASD Parent & Caregiver Support Group

eMail:      Hamilton.FASD@gmail.com

Website:  http://hamiltonfasdsupport.ca

  1. June 27thSupport Group Meeting Location & Guest Speaker Nancy Hall

As per last year, our summer meetings (starting June 27th) are held at the Williams Waterfront Café.  Please refer to our support group website Meeting Info tab for further information http://hamiltonfasdsupport.ca/5.html

ALSO, we are pleased to announce that our Guest speaker for our meeting will be Nancy Hall; Fascets Canada.   Nancy will provide a brief overview of Fascets Canada and the Neurobehavioural Model.  Link:  http://www.fascetscanada.com/  FASCETS Canada is a satellite agency of the original FASCETS in Portland, Oregon, and continues the work of FASD expert, Diane Malbin.  FASCETS Canada provides training, education and consulting services in the Neurobehavioural Approach for parents and professionals, to support the development of effective, brain-based, person-specific accommodations.  Please refer to the Support Group Events tab for further info.

  1. May 27thSupport Group meeting

We had a great meeting!  We were very honored to have Barbara Studham speak to our group about her challenges raising 4 grandchildren with FASD and her memoir “Challenged Hope” (It is actually titled: Two Decades of Diapers– my words).  The members were able to obtain copies of her memoir at the meeting.  Again our sincere thanks to Barbara!

    3.   Youth & Sibling Support Group

A brief update – we mentioned at our May support group meeting that we had an initial meeting to discuss the plans for our separate support group for youths and siblings.  We had another meeting to finalize the plans.  We anticipate that the meeting will be held at the Dundas Baptist Church (same location as the RJ Formanek event).  We anticipate that the first meeting will be very “light” (more a greet and eat for the initial meeting) to allow everyone to get to know each other a bit!  The first meeting will be approximately 1 hour.  The first meeting date is pending confirmation (more to follow)

  1. Training Updates

The Hamilton FASD Community Resource Team fall/winter training programs

** Sincere thanks to Brenda McBride CFS for providing the info

Note: The info has also been added to our Support Site Training tab.  Advance registration is required.  Cost: $0 for caregivers.

FASD Part 1 – Three Part Training Program

October 6, 2015 Series 1: The Basics: Understanding FASD

October 13, 2015 Series 2: FASD Intervention Principles—Best Practices “What to do when…”

October 20, 2015 Series 3: Advocacy-Promoting School Success and Transition to Adulthood

http://fasdhamilton.ca/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Flyer-for-Hamilton-FASD-training-October-2015.pdf

FASD Part 2 – Three part Training Program – Next Steps

** Please note to attend this session, completion of Part 1 FASD Training is required.

November 10, 2015 Session 1: Grief and Loss

November 17, 2015 Session 2: Strategies and Interventions

November 24, 2015 Session 3: Transition to Adulthood

http://fasdhamilton.ca/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Flyer-for-Hamilton-FASD-training-Part-2-November-2015.pdf

  1. SEAC Meeting

Jeff Gowland and I attended the SEAC meeting on June 10th.  This was the final SEAC meeting until the fall.  We reviewed their 2014/15 Special Education Report.  It is an extensive document (109 pages).  The report reflected a number of changes to enhance FASD support and awareness.  Worth noting, at the May 27th meeting we had shared information on FASD diagnosis challenges as well as the recent research on the effect of a glass of wine stopping the fetus from breathing and moving for up to ttwo hours (see our site for the research).  The SEAC chair Judy Colantino mentioned to me after the meeting that one of the school trustees had read the effects of a glass of wine research and asked that the information be included in the sex education program!

  1. Kids Bowl for the summer for free

Registered kids age 15 and under receive 2 free games of bowling every day for the entire summer (value $500).  Note that registration is required.  Bowling shoes (+cost) also required.  * It may be worth purchasing shoes if you plan to use the program for the summer!  (our sincere thanks to Jeff G for the info)  Link:  http://www.kidsbowlfree.com/canada.php

  1. Hamilton Police Service FASD Awareness

We are pleased to announce that Jeff Gowland prepared a 10 page PowerPoint slide deck on FASD that was distributed to the entire Hamilton Police Services!  This will have a tremendous impact on their awareness of FASD.  Congratulations Jeff on a job well done!!  ** I am attempting to add the presentation to our site – encountering challenges.  Will continue trying!

  1. Support Group Website Changes/New Info
  •   Meeting Info location and Guest Speaker (Meeting info tab)
  • .Event – Nancy Hall Guest speaker (Events Tab)
  • .FASD is a Disability not a Behaviour video (Useful Info / General tab)
  • .Obtaining an FASD diagnosis (Useful Info / Support websites tab)
  • .Respite Services (Useful Info / Support Websites tab)
  •  kids Bowl For Free (Useful Info/General Info tab – Summer Items

Thanks to Mark Courtepatte and Savanna Pietrantonio, founders of Hamilton FASD Caregivers Support Group for the information for this post.

eMail:      Hamilton.FASD@gmail.com

Website:  http://hamiltonfasdsupport.ca

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 My memoir: Two Decades Of Diapers describes my twenty years raising grandchildren with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome.

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