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Am I Supposed To Feel This Way, by Elizabeth Archer

A book for birth children experiencing the adoption of a child into the family.

Am I Supposed To Feel This Way, by Elizabeth Archer. Available from AMAZON.

Am I Supposed To Feel This Way, by Elizabeth Archer. Available from AMAZON.

Elizabeth Archer’s book Am I Supposed To Feel This Way was created for birth children whose parents are adopting a child. Available from Amazon, it can be used as a tool by parents to educate their birth child on the arrival of their adopted child, as well as by the birth child to express their feelings about the upcoming adoption.

NOTE: This would also be a great book for a birth child whose adopted sibling is known to have FASD. Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder can cause many complex behaviors, throwing the birth child into confusion as to how to cope with their new sibling’s behavior. 

Review:  Am I Supposed To Feel This Way, by Elizabeth Archer, is a delightful book providing a first-hand insight into the feelings of a boy called Oliver, before and after the arrival of his adopted brother Max. The story progresses through the adoption process, the why’s and how’s of adoption, the waiting for the child to arrive, and Oliver’s feelings throughout the journey. The “Questions about You” section gives the birth child the opportunity to stop and think about his/her reactions to the adoption, and then discuss those impressions, anxieties, and questions with a parent.  The book goes deeper by reminding parents to consider the birth child’s need for extra love and attention during and after the adoption process. This is a great book for birth children whose parents are considering adoption, and for the parents of the birth child to discover the true feelings of their child regarding the adoption of a child. If you are buying this book for a birth child, include a box of coloring pencils, as there are pages to be colored and circles designed especially for the child to draw his/her expressions. Great book sensitively written, with cute illustrations!

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Barbara Studham’s bio.

For over twenty years, Barbara Studham has parented grandchildren diagnosed with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. Her two memoirs: Two Decades of Diapers, and, Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, The Teen Years, describe her challenges during their toddler years and teens. She has also written fiction, including a six-book series titled, Under The Shanklin Sky, set in the seaside town of Shanklin, on the Isle of Wight. She is currently creating a children’s FASD picture book series Strawberry & Cracker, Twins with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. Now available in the series is, THE SCHOOL DAY, and, FIDGET! Soon to be released – THE BIRTHDAY BASH!

Barbara Studham’s books are available from AMAZON.

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